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Unsure About College? Should They Go Anyway?

Is going to college without a clear career direction or any goal beyond just graduating worth the cost? How parents can help teenagers identify their strengths, values and interests, assess themselves functionally, and then decide whether going directly to college is the right move.

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“Transition Fever” Peaks in Winter for Parents and Teens

Parenting college-bound teenagers from senior year on while dealing with changes in marital, personal and family life.

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You Can’t Make Your Adult Children Happy, So Stop Trying!

Postparenting adult children who feel “entitled.”

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Anxiety Dreams – The Bag Lady Nightmare

Here’s how you know you’ve become a woman of a certain age: The anxiety dream that wakes you up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night isn’t the one about oversleeping your SAT’s, it’s the one about being a bag lady. In my version, I’m trying to sneak a shopping cart full […]

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Ask The Postparent Coach

They’re Ba..a..ck! These days many grown kids are coming back to the nest or finding it hard to leave. They may have failed in their initial attempts at independence or fear striking out on their own. With mutual agreement on the terms and conditions for living together and mutual respect for each other’s opinions, standards […]

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Bonus Babies/Boomer Grandparents

We’re young and strong enough to be a real influence on our grandchildren’s lives and help our kids with the most difficult job of theirs. But we cause more harm than good when we take over their role as parents – this infantilizes them, compromises their independence, and undermines their self-confidence. If you’re having boundary […]

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When Does Postparenthood Start?

Post-Parenthood starts when your kids are old enough to vote and lasts as long as you do.  It’s the final evolution of your role as a parent, and it requires what may be the most difficult task of all: acknowledging that they are adults, with the right to lead their own lives, make their own […]

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How to Know If Your Family Business Is Ruining Your Family’s Life

Here’s a quick quiz to help you determine if your family business is  having a negative impact on relationships in your family. FAMILY BUSINESS WORK/LIFE BOUNDARY QUIZ 1=never    2=sometimes    3=often   4=always My personal and business friends are the same people.     ________ When I leave work, I don’t think about it – when I’moff duty, […]

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The Writing Life

When asked what kind of books you write, you try to avoid the words “self help.” Although self help books have kept many a publisher’s bottom line sound, the genre has a distinctly down-market image “If you know the secret to getting rich, thin or married and can write a simple declarative sentence, you can […]

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The College Transition

Many of the problems parents and students have with the college transition come from confusion about whose problems they really are. Get clear on ownership of both rights and responsibilities. Stepping in and taking over problems that are theirs, not yours, shields them from responsibility for living their own lives and presents you with dilemmas […]