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Bonus Babies/Boomer Grandparents
We’re young and strong enough to be a real influence on our grandchildren’s lives and help our kids with the most difficult job of theirs. But we cause more harm than good when we take over their role as parents – this infantilizes them, compromises their independence, and undermines...
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Ask The Postparent Coach
They’re Ba..a..ck! These days many grown kids are coming back to the nest or finding it hard to leave. They may have failed in their initial attempts at independence or fear striking out on their own. With mutual agreement on the terms and conditions for living together and mutual respect for...
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Can’t My Grown Sibs Be Friends?
Can’t My Grown Sibs Be Friends?
We want our kids to love and support one another, but shared family history may not be enough to keep them together, especially if their lives, priorities and values are dissimilar. Often sibling rivalry that lasts into adulthood gets in the way of real connection. While our immediate impulse may be...
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Boundary Basics in the Family Business
What Are Boundaries? Mental structures that separate the parts of our minds from each other and also distinguish our minds from other people’s minds. Psychologically as well as physically, they are where I end and you begin. Interpersonal boundaries – the ones between people – are the building...
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Divorce In the Family Business
Divorce has financial ramifications in every family business, and emotional ones in every business family. While legal strategies, succession and tax planning  can minimize the monetary effects on the business of a  marital break-up,  anticipating its impact on   relationships, morale, and even...
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The College Transition
Many of the problems parents and students have with the college transition come from confusion about whose problems they really are. Get clear on ownership of both rights and responsibilities. Stepping in and taking over problems that are theirs, not yours, shields them from responsibility for living...
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The Writing Life
When asked what kind of books you write, you try to avoid the words “self help.” Although self help books have kept many a publisher’s bottom line sound, the genre has a distinctly down-market image “If you know the secret to getting rich, thin or married and can write a simple...
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THE NEW NORMAL: BOOMERANG KIDS
In the decade after the children of first wave baby boomers graduated from college, the percentage of young adults who live with a parent increased steadily. Although the majority gave the economy as the reason for living at home, a closer examination revealed that was only part of the story: Even before...
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Whose Life Is It Anyway?
How often do we say “When I was your age…” or “If you want my advice…” to our kids? Remember that the world they’ve come of age in is very different from the one we faced when we were younger, so we may not always know best! A key task of postparenthood is turning responsibility...
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The Launching Pad
The Launching Pad
The College Acceptance Letter Is In the Mail – Now What? Any day now high school seniors will be hearing from the colleges of their choice. Yes or no, thin letter or fat missive, it’s a critical time for parents as well as their young adults, the first stage in launching them into the college...
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