http://janeadams.com/2009/06/18/when-does-postparenthood-start/ boomers, parenting grown kids, family businesses, and Life Its Own Self Fri, 13 Jan 2012 19:42:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 http://janeadams.com/2009/06/18/when-does-postparenthood-start/comment-page-1/#comment-929 When Does Postparenthood Start? | Jane Adams Sat, 23 Jan 2010 19:54:26 +0000 http://janeadams.com/?p=201#comment-929 [...] Our son flunked out of college and came back home to live. He has no job, a plan, or much motivation. We’re worried – [...] [...] Our son flunked out of college and came back home to live. He has no job, a plan, or much motivation. We’re worried – [...]

]]> http://janeadams.com/2009/06/18/when-does-postparenthood-start/comment-page-1/#comment-335 joan Teigen Tue, 22 Sep 2009 04:01:56 +0000 http://janeadams.com/?p=201#comment-335 My husband and i are taking turns and sometimes together to help our son who had an 8 month manic episode at forty. He is now seriously depressed. He is under the cae of a pschologist and a psychiatrist. We also got a second opinion (which irritated his Dr here) at the Mayo Clinic in MN. They seem to think the manic was medicine induced because of the gastric bypass absorption issue. He never had one before and none in our families. It is takiing a long time to find the right combo of drugs to help him out of the depression. He was in the hospital 10 days, and then did out-patient talk therapy for two weeks. Which they admitted did not work for him on the last day. My question , my three other children think we are enabling him by staying with him basically all of the times for two months. We live in FL over half of the year and in six weeks we hope to leave. Now we are frightened to go. This is tearing all of us apart, something I never thought would happen. Several of our older children think he is taking advantage of us by baiing him out of his finanical problems when manic. They think he is not being brave enough to confront the problems at work etc. he made while manic. He has been working 6-8 hour days hard physical labor in his garage or helping us but of course only when we stand their and push him like a child. How far can parents go and when do we dare start to let go?? My husband and i are taking turns and sometimes together to help our son who had an 8 month manic episode at forty. He is now seriously depressed. He is under the cae of a pschologist and a psychiatrist. We also got a second opinion (which irritated his Dr here) at the Mayo Clinic in MN. They seem to think the manic was medicine induced because of the gastric bypass absorption issue.
He never had one before and none in our families. It is takiing a long time to find the right combo of drugs to help him out of the depression. He was in the hospital 10 days, and then did out-patient talk therapy for two weeks. Which they admitted did not work for him on the last day.
My question , my three other children think we are enabling him by staying with him basically all of the times for two months. We live in FL over half of the year and in six weeks we hope to leave. Now we are frightened to go. This is tearing all of us apart, something I never thought would happen. Several of our older children think he is taking advantage of us by baiing him out of
his finanical problems when manic. They think he is not being brave enough to confront the problems at work etc. he made while manic. He has been working 6-8 hour days hard physical labor in his garage or helping us but of course only when we stand their and push him like a child. How far can parents go and when do we dare start to let go??

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